That’s where my eye will be in hot pursuit of my 2020 vision. “I” am going to have to step up my game in order to keep my focus right where it should be….on me. “I” must think and act in ways that will keep my vision for myself clear for this new year. I’ve got to remind myself of a popular quote that if I do nothing, nothing happens. The key word here is “I” and many times we forget that it is until we’re complaining about some need that hasn’t been met.
It’s more than a few years ago that I set out to become self- employed. I recognized that I could use my skills and experience to bring more value to my life both financially and emotionally. I’d made strides in setting up the basics to my plan and I was moving towards the marketing of my business. People say that life happens when you’re not looking and wow, was I blind-sided! A wonderful but somewhat unexpected bundle of joy changed the entire landscape of thought, intention and plan. Fast forward to one year later and first-time mommyhood combined with relationship problems led to unpartnered parenthood. My plan for self- employment was now going nowhere, fast.
I looked up long enough from a pile of toddler laundry to realize that my next step would have to be full time employment. When I looked up again from a parent-teacher 3rd grade meeting I saw that others were speeding by me on life’s highway. I felt that I’d lost my place in line so the thought was why bother trying? I was in that space where we become other-focused; more concerned about what others think than what we think. Our thoughts are about what we can’t do rather than what we can. Our mindset allows for self-doubt and self-criticism to take shape which keeps us in Park versus Drive mode. We forget that the “I” is the key in the ignition, the one word that starts everything up….and keeps it moving!
I’d practiced the power of the “I” many times before, forming a teenage dance troupe, going abroad to college, leading committees, getting married and… getting divorced. I, like many of us, thought that life just happens. I just never consciously thought of my progress through life as coming from my decision to put my hands on the wheel and actively steer in the direction I wanted life to go. It turns out that it’s as simple as that however differently we might think or feel. The new year brings into view unchartered territory and unexplored terrain. We could just stand there staring it down or looking back at what we did or didn’t do last year. We could decide to use the fuel that’s called desire for more/better in our lives, set our sight on our dreams and goals, power up our imagination and courage and put the “I” into gear. Vroom! Vroom!
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